When The Sky Has Gravity.. My New Blog

Dear Web Pals, how are you doing?

It’s been quite long since my post in this blog, and I have actually moved to tolivehappily.wordpress.com

Why the move?

I am trying to make a blog where the aim is to share love (and also complains and frustrations). And since I cannot change this blog name, I decided to create a new one that might show more in its name..

Some of the posts are:

Are You Still Friends with Ex-Colleagues?

The Fear of Being Judged

The Dilemma of Being in A Group

Please let me know what you think of the new blog 🙂



Identity Crisis: Are You really YOU?


“It is easier to live through someone else than to complete yourself. The freedom to lead and plan your own life is frightening if you have never faced it before.” – Betty Friedan


Standing separated by the bar table in the office, the question “What makes her doing what she did?” came from a colleague of mine (let’s name her Daniela). Daniela was referring to another colleague, Mark. We both thought that Mark was not being reasonable in his business decision (or even in his participation in the decision making).

I replied with a “I don’t know. Why would you ask that question?”.

I had never thought of the reasoning behind his act. I mean, I had too many things to juggle. But, this question might be the answer to understanding and reasoning with Mark once and for all, instead of always created workarounds to each block coming my way.

“You know, there…

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Fear of Being Judged..

To conquer oneself is a greater task than conquering others – Siddhārtha Gautama (Buddha) c. 563 – c. 483 BC

This evening, I spent some of my time reading in a café and then off to exercising in the gym. When I was at the gym, it suddenly hit me.

I felt threatened. The calm feeling I felt when I was reading was not there anymore. Unlike reading, exercising is quite new to me. It provides an element that I have yet to successfully tame.

It almost keeps me away from continuing. It is the feeling that the audiences are (secretly) judging me, a novice with only little experience on exercising.

read on at: https://tolivehappily.wordpress.com/2015/04/12/the-fear-of-being-judged/

P.S. I have moved to this new blog, to be more positive about life 🙂

A Boy and The Lesson from his Memory

Weekly Writing Challenge: Fifty-Word Inspiration


Every once a while, his mind wanders far away to the past; a place where none exists physically any more, yet remains. All the little matters, the looks, the sound, the feelings, might still occupy his mind. A memory only, yet feels so real.

Things are not the same any more. The street he lived in has changed much; the houses have been rebuilt, the old man used to sitting on his porch is gone, the sound of granny calling his grandson is no more.

I would ask, “Why keeping on recalling your past?” and he would innocently say, “It reminds me of the people I care about, the emotions I have ever had”.


Things are not always good. Things are also not always bad. Can we say that how and to which we choose our focus is what will differentiate us from the other “us” that we might be, had we focus on different things?

Top of Mind – Gut Feeling

Kindly answer these questions (in your mind):
Q: What is your favorite color?
A: …

Q: Who is your closest friend?
A: …

Q: What do you want to do in your leisure time?
A: …

Is it easy for you to answer those questions? It would be, if you answer it spontaneously.
Usually, there will be one object that pops into our mind firstly, leaving all other things behind, things that catch up with it after we give the question more thought. Our top of our mind’s answer to the question usually reflects our tendency towards particular issue at hand.

Yesterday, a good friend of mine who is working in a consulting company asked what he should choose from the three options in front of him – continue working as a consultant, or join a start-up company and help develop the business, or join a transformation project aimed to restructure a national company. He has done the pros – cons analysis of all three options. The first one will give him more experience/exposure, although he does not quite like the field he’s going to be assigned into. The second gives him the opportunity to know more about raising a relatively small company, but does not provide the prestige that the consulting firm might give in his CV. The third options, if successful, will prove his capacity of change management, with the barriers is the political aspect which often exists in conventional company.

What do you think he should choose? Which option will you numbered as no. 1, 2, and 3?
 …
 …
 …

The way we numbered it shows our tendencies. The gut feeling is telling us to embrace the one that we will more likely enjoy. My friend also has his own tendency, to choose the one that aligns with his long term objective (although he said that he’s open to all).

Now, why do we start ignoring our gut feeling and letting our brain take over, in the expense of our heart suffering because we do not choose the real path that our heart tells us to?

Have the physical and rational things take over our feelings?

Weekly Writing Challenges

Do It Everyday?

Whether you’re planning to write journal, or read a book, or just exercising, DO IT ROUTINELY.

Have you ever had hard times when it comes to regularly hitting the gym or picking up your notebook and write?

If yes, perhaps it happens because we are not accustomed to that particular activity, that we have not made the habit of doing it religiously. In her post Best Advice: Make a Habit of Something Every DayGretchen Rubin share the best advice she ever got: “You should write practically every day.”

When I read her post, I wonder if there are things that I might have left just because I have not mastered it, or things that I do not pursue because I am not good at it.

We want to live with No Regret, so let’s get to know ourselves and then pursue our list of goal(s). Do it regularly, daily if applicable, and give it some time. If it turns out to be our passion, great! If it does not, even greater! Next experiences to get ourselves into!

Some would say that we don’t have enough time to do all the thing we have to and would love to do. Well, we don’t. But, we can choose to do what matters to us, those particular activities that will help us become closer to achieving our goal(s).

Oh, if you’re planning to make eating fatty burger daily, be sure to balance it with some work out. Or simply change it to less fat burger?


In response to Weekly Writing Challenge: Object (the object I used here is our daily activities)

Bite of the Day

Personal Truth

Being different is commendable, not a point of persecution and isolation.

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